Breaking up has never been easy. Sometimes you look at the whole thing and you feel that you really want to be back together with your ex. But before you rush off trying to get your ex back, there are certain things that you should consider and do first.

First of all, what is/are the reason that has causes the breakup? What is/are the problem that has resulted in this situation? How can you solve the issue? Is it your fault or your ex? If the fault lies in you, be prepared to admit it and apologize for it. You would need to know what are the causes for the breakup and also how you can solve the problems before you approach your ex.

After you have identify the above, approach your ex to talk it through and try to resolve the problems. If your ex is willing to sit down and talk things through, that is good. But if your ex is not ready to talk to you just yet, not to worry. Give your ex some space to cool down before you approach your ex again.

During this time when your ex is cooling down, refrain from calling and smsing your ex non stop. I know you missed your ex and would like to talk to your ex. Instead of pulling your ex closer to you, this will just push your ex even further away from you. Why is that so? The thing is, if you keep calling your ex non-stop or smsing, it will appear that you are very clingy and needy. You don’t want to look that. It will annoy your ex when they needed some time and space to cool off a bit. So go about your daily routines and leave your ex alone for a while.

Take this as a time for you to catch up with your friends. Go through your phone book and arrange for meet ups with your friends. They will be there to give you support through this period.

You can also take up a new hobby. Before you might be too busy and not have the time for hobby. Now is a good time to learn something that you have always wanted to. Take this as an opportunity to enrich yourself.

During this period of time, you would want to take good care of yourself, especially your image. Eat and rest well. Go for a new hair cut and also get yourself some new clothing. Well, you must be wondering why would you even want to do that when you are just not in the mood. The reason is simple. 1st of all, it will make you look good and you will feel more confident. Another reason is, you don’t want to run into your ex or your ex friends looking really terrible, would you? So take good care of yourself, eat and rest well and take care of your dressing.

Wanting to be back together with your ex is possible. But you would need to be patient. When your ex have cool down, you can approach your ex to see how you can work out the problems together. Meantime, just be patient and apply the advise above. Take care and talk to you soon.

She Walks
by Jeffrey Carter

She walks along this lonely street
no one to dry her tears
massage her tired feet
or calm ever present fears

Seeing life through tainted heart
making everything gray
Alone, her life, anew to start
Always searching for a way

But life goes on no matter what
That fact she cannot quell
Memories ne’er to be forgot
Within her heart they dwell

So she keeps walking this lonely street
Keeps searching to find her way
Every night she lies down to sleep
And prays tomorrow’s a better day

You were so close, so in love. You were the envy of your friends and people around you. But now, that has change. Your love has broken up with you. It seems like your world has come crashing down around you. And suddenly, it felt like you were in the North Pole, with the chill spreading from your heart to the whole of you ..

Breaking up with the person that you love dearly can be really painful. If there is a pill that could stop the pain, I would gladly give it to you. However, there is no such pill. But there are some things that you can do that will help you to handle this pain and eventually get over it.

The very first thing is to accept the fact that your relationship with your love has come to an end for this point of time. By accepting the fact about the current state for your relationship will help you to move towards recovery.

Next, it’s time to do house keeping. When you are together with your ex, you would no doubt have received presents from your ex. Now is the time to put away all these presents. Spring cleaning does not mean just the Teddy Bears, Clothes, presents, etc that you received from your ex. It also mean the screen savers and wallpapers that you use on your computer, those loving sms that your ex send you, the photos that you have taken together. These things which used to be the prove of your love will not help in your recovery now. So do a thorough clean up and put away all those things that are related to your love.

During this period of time, you should try to occupy your time. Now is a good time for you catch up with your friends and also to take up that hobby that you have always wanted to. Treat this as a time to enriched yourself and spend time with your friends again. Your friends will be there to support you through this period of time when you needed them most.

There is no instant cure to getting over your broken heart. By applying the above mention tips, it will help you to move towards recovery and eventually getting over your broken heart. Be strong, you will ride through this and come out stronger.

What is your thinking after watching this video? Do you think that the people that got stuck on the escalator are being stupid? That they could have just get up and walk up the escalator instead of standing there for hours, waiting for people to come repair it?

Well, it might look like the people are being silly. But let’s think of it this way, the escalator is life itself and the people are moving through their daily lives. The breakdown of the escalator is the hiccups that you will come across in life and in this case, your love life. How does this video seem to you now?

In your love life, you would have no doubt have many happy moments. And as everything is 2 sided, there would also be unhappy moments that would occur. When that happens, will you react like the people on the escalator and wait for someone to help you solve the issue? Or would you make the effort to solve the thing yourself? I hope this video will get you to reflect on the things that is happening in your life and think of how you can improve it. Take care and see you soon.

~ Unrequited Love Poem ~

I Am A Fool Once More
by Doug Roberson

I am a fool once more

I fell in love with you today
and, silly me, I tried to say
that forevermore I would play
…your little game

I did not know that you were just flattered
and that my devotion had never mattered
so I looked down when my heart splattered
…at your feet

My soul was crushed beneath your heel
I guess this means I’m not quite real
and that it’s irrelevant just what I feel
…about you now

So don’t look now, I’ll go back home
and you won’t have to hear me moan
as I see your sweet eyes roam
…across the crowd

Now from the dark, I see your wings
spread and soar as your spirit sings
you’ve forgotten me and the little things
…with which I’d hoped to win your heart



The video that I’m going to share with you now has nothing to do with a broken heart. It’s is a movie that is make by a guy to propose to his girlfriend. The movie consist of clips from their dating life. It is the kind of propose that most girls would be touch by. I hope you like the clip. Let me know how you feel after watching it.

一生中最期待的电影，贾潇雨作品，献给最爱的鹿鹿

So why am I showing this to you when you are still nursing your broken heart? The reason is simple. I want you to know that in life, everything is 2 sided. For there to be a left, there must be a right and this applies to everything. Right now you are feeling so sad. But remember, for sadness to be there, happiness must be present on the other side. You might be feeling that you can never be happy again. But trust me, your happiness is just not far away from you. It is not visble to you at this moment but it is not that very far away.

So for the time being, I want you to be a part of Luca’s happiness (the lady in the clip) and have faith that your own happiness is on it’s way to you.

I still miss you…
But not like I did before.
The intense aching I felt,
Isn’t there anymore.

I still whisper your name…
Not as often as I used to.
Now it may be once,
Before the day is through.

I still hear your voice…
Replaying in my mind.
But it’s fading now,
Soon silence I will find.

I still long for you…
To feel your touch.
But it’s not like before,
I don’t dream it as much.

I still think about you…
And wonder how you are.
But my feelings have changed,
And they don’t go as far.

I still feel you sometimes…
Maybe you’re thinking of me?
Or maybe it’s just a little memory,
Of how it used to be.

I still love you…
But it’s just not as strong.
Because I’m letting you go now,
So we can both move on.

I still hear you say…
No one will love me like you do.
That’s so hard to believe now,
After the hurt you put me through.

You still have a piece of my heart..
Because I always felt you here.
Now, I’m hoping and praying,
That, that too, will quickly disappear.

This will be my last goodbye..
I’ve nothing else to say.
Everything I felt for you,
Can now just fade away.

I know you are feeling down. Here’s a video to help you feel better.

It’s a baby that’s laughing hysterically when his father ripped a piece paper. You know, I was laughing along with the baby. And I want you to do the same Watch it and let me know how you feel after watching it.

Do you feel better now that you have watched the video?

Getting you heart broken by the person you love can really make you feel very depressed. It might seem like the end of the world and that you could never be happy again. But trust me, things will get better as you recover from the broken heart. At the mean time, there are a few times that you can do to help you feel better.

Go Out With Your Friends
Get out your phonebook or scroll through your contacts on your mobile phone and start arranging for meet up with your friends. During this period of time, your friend will be there to give your support and help you to get though your heart break. That’s what friends are for.

Switch Off The Radio and TV
This might sounds like a really weird advise. Why should you switch off your radio and TV?? You must be wondering. Well, you see, there is this chance that the radio station might play a song that triggers off some memory and reduce you to tears. Same goes to the TV. Some scene that the TV is showing might remind you of the time when you are with your ex and cause you to feel sad again. So to avoid putting yourself in a depress mode, switch your Radio and TV off. If you really need some sound, you can try listening to music.

House Keeping
Hmm .. sounds like another weird advise? Why would you feel like house keeping when you all you want to do if stay in bed and not get out of it. The house keeping here actually refers to clearing up stuff left in your house by your ex. Get a big carton and start to pack your ex things into the carton, this could be presents from your ex, clothing, belongings, etc. Anything that belongs and comes from your ex goes into this carton. Putting these things away will lessen the chance of triggering off your memory of your ex.

These are some things that you can do to help you to feel better during this period when you are recovering from your broken heart.

“Because of you I find it hard to trust. Not only me but everyone around me. Because of you, I am afraid .. ”

This song describe so well how some children that comes from divorce family feel. Children whose parents are divorcing goes through some psychological effects that will affect the way that they behave when they grow up. Studies has shown that these effect tends to arise in the early part of the children’s adult life.

Being a child of divorce, you would have experience some psychological effects. Each individual are affected differently.

The most common feelings that you will feel is anger. This anger could be directed towards your parents or it could be directed towards yourself and people around you. However, throwing your temper and fighting with your parents is not going to help you feel better. The anger in you don’t just go away like that and holding on to it is not good for you. Here are some ways that you can use to help you overcome the anger you have towards your parents.

Talk to your parents about it, let them know your feelings. If you find it hard to talk to them face to face, you can write an email to them. This is not about scolding them or putting them down. The purpose of talking to your parents is to understand why they did what they did. Understanding the reason behind their action is a step towards letting go of your anger and thus forgiving your parents.

If talking to your parents is not possible, you can approach someone who can offer you advise on the situation. This person could be a relative, your teacher or a counsellor. Seeking the help of a counsellor has quite a few benefit. First of all, the counsellor is someone who is professionally train in helping people overcome and handle such issues. The counsellor, being a third party will be able to offer you advise that is unbiase.

Whatever the reason for the divorce, your parents did not intend to hurt you intentionally. They are just humans who act in a way that they feel is the best for everyone at that point of time. By talking to your parents and understanding the reason behind their actions is a start towards forgiving them. And when you forgive them, you will find that the anger you have towards them diminishing.